Do GoodWhile on one of my much-treasured trips through Target, this little guy practically leaped out across the aisle at me. Crammed among the other clearance pillows, I had to walk over and dig it out to confirm what exactly had caught my eye. Not too cute, not too wordy- it’s simple message was bolstered by its impactful, minimalist design. And, oddly enough, it was just what I needed to be reminded of. Do Good. So, I whisked my new friend home, sat it across from my laptop, and began to ponder what exactly, “do good,” meant to me.
For Yourself …The first thing that came to mind was a hard lesson I learned recently: you have to do good for yourself. If you are not good, nothing you are trying to do really can be. Sure, you can fake it pretty well, often for a pretty long time, but it all unravels eventually. And picking up that particular mess is hard- at least it was for me. So maybe that is why “do good” immediately struck the self-care chord: because, some days more than others, I’m still picking up that mess.
… For Others …It should come as no great surprise, then, that my need to do good for me very quickly overflowed into doing good for others. From small, genuine compliments for strangers to meaningful heart-to-hearts with loved ones, suddenly I wanted everyone to feel good. Not just me. And it was on that particular path that I discovered something wonderful: the more I did good for others, the more I did good for me. Through some magical drip of cosmic karma (or something equally whimsical) the more I filled the cups of others, I found my cup overflowing.
… But Still for You
Then, typing this all out, it hit me. Doing good for others was doing good for me because I had already done good for me. Previously in my life I had done good for others, but I had been pouring from a nearly empty cup; doing good for others took everything I had. Now that I am working on better routines and practices, really caring about myself and my wellbeing, I find that sharing with others does not drain me like it used to.
So, the Do Good pillow is here to stay, my friends. To remind me - and hopefully you too - that there is good to be done, if only we stop to identify that sometimes where we need it most is right here.